We Know…It’s Not Easy to Send Your Child Here, But Here’s Why It May Be a Good Idea
On average, by the time most parents pick up the phone to call us, they’ve already run through several therapists or psychologists. They’ve tried everything, hoping that this therapist or this medication will help their child. But nothing is working.
For many families the strategies they have already tried include:
• School counselor/teacher/principal sessions
• In-home behavioral contracts/agreements
• Professional parental help and advice, support groups, self-help resources
• Sending your child to live with a relative
• Home schooling, or enrolling in a private school
• Therapists, psychologists, counselors, psychiatrists or family doctor
• Medications – various medications tested over months of time, at varying dosage levels
• Moving the family to a new school system, neighborhood, city or state
• Short-term inpatient programs.
The worse the problems get, the more damage there is to repair, and the more risk to your child’s safety and well-being. You do need to know who your teen’s friends are, what they do, what they’re interested in, where they hang out, and what activities they are engaged in. Monitor and verify this information. You are not being invasive. You are being a responsible, proactive, caring parent.
Things will usually not get better by themselves — they’ll get worse and you’ll lose the control you now have as a parent to do something about it before he or she turns 18.
You must be vigilant, consistent, present and most of all, realistic. If you need to take action, do so, for the protection of your child.
What About the Family?
At California Leadership Academy, we believe our duty is to see the teen and the family as a whole unit. We’re looking long range for you. We intend to develop a partnership with the family as a whole, which includes your son.
Will your child hate you forever for taking him or her away from the friends and influences that are dragging them down? No, we have not experienced that. Your teen may be angry at first and direct that anger back at you. That’s quite common, and that probably has been going on for sometime already. But we help them begin to make changes within, and attitudes will begin to shift. Relationships will begin to heal. In actuality, even from the beginning, most teens that come to our campus are breathing a sigh of relief that someone put a stop to all the craziness they were involved in.